Completing Him Challenge~August 2, 2010

It's Week #8 in our marriage challenge and this challenge is straight from the Bible:

R-E-S-P-E-C-T!

No complaining, criticizing, rolling your eyes, nagging, or giving him any friction this week. Enjoy a week of peace in your home!

Ephesians 5:33 says "Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself and the wife must respect her husband."

Courtney shared this list of ways a husband will feel disrespected by his wife:

1. The wife rolling her eyes at him.

2. The wife criticizing him.

3. The wife complaining to her mother or girlfriends about his flaws.

4. The wife not respecting his knowledge, opinions or decisions.

5. The wife nagging him or assuming the worst in his actions.

6. The wife using sarcasm to communicate bitterness.

7. The wife disrespecting his work, protection, provision or leadership.

8. The wife disrespecting his need for physical intimacy or his "manhood" (wink wink).

I do respect my husband immensely. I make a great effort to show him respect in our home, in family situations and when I'm not with him, as well. One area I do need to work on is sarcasm. It's part of my personality and I must make an effort to watch my use of it with my husband. I tend to display my frustration with sarcasm, in many situations, not just with my husband. I need to work on that!

I will discuss this with dh tonight and share his comments.

Please check out the other views on Respect at Courtney's blog.

Blessings and peace,

Lisa

Completing Him Challenge~His Vision

It's week #7 in the Summer Completing Him Challenge! Here's this week's challenge: Support his vision. Discuss his vision for your family. Where does he see your family in 1 year, 5 years, and 10 years. Share with us how you let your husband lead.

I'm a bit late in posting to this week's challenge. Things have been busy here, and dh and I have had very little free time to talk about his vision. When I asked what his vision was for our family, he said that his current vision is us living in our new house, without going broke. He said that at this point, it's hard to see any further than that. We're taking it one day at a time. As many of you know, things have not been going smoothly with this project. It is taking more time and more money than anticipated. Many things that we had planned for the house have been cut and more work has been piled on dh in the process. John has been the leader in this project, while I take care of the household and kids.

Thanks for stopping by!

Blessings and peace,

Lisa

Completing Him Challenge~July 19th~

We are to week #6 of the "Completing Him" Marriage Challenge and this week's challenge is: Make your husband a priority. Ask him what his favorite dinner, dessert and drink are. Be sure to serve him all three one night this week. Bonus: cook his favorite dishes all week long!

This challenge is simple for me. As Courtney mentioned, there are Five Love Languages shared in the book of the same name by Gary Chapman. I show love through service and gifts. I cook and bake for my dh to show him my love, to nurture him and to please him. Our weekly menu generally consists of meals that are pleasing to my husband.

John's favorite dinner is Chicken Cutlets in Cream Sauce over Linguine. He loves that served with a nice glass of wine. He also loves Molten Chocolate Cakes for dessert. I hope to prepare this meal this week for dh, if I can find those custard dishes that are in storage....somewhere!

Blessings and peace,

Lisa

Completing Him Challenge~July 5th

This weeks Marriage challenge is to share what you admire about your husband. My husband is a special man for so many reasons. I admire so many things about him:

~He is very intelligent and knows how to do so many different things.

~He works hard to take care of our family...at his job and at home.

~He is a good father to our children.

~He is committed to our marriage.

~He loves me even when I'm having a crazy day.

~He supports me in all that I do.

~He is a caring man.

~He is prayerful and involved in the church.

~He is a leader.

On Thursday, we'll be married 15 years.

Happy Anniversary to my husband, my lover and my best friend!

I love you John!

Blessings,

Lisa

Completing Him Challenge~Praying for my Husband

This week as part of the Completing Him Challenge, Courtney challenges us to pray for our husbands daily. I do pray daily for my husband, but this week I'm going to ask him what he'd like me to pray about for him. I also loved the idea of saying a prayer for my husband every time I look at my wedding ring. What a wonderful visual reminder!

Here's the list of prayer ideas Courtney shared:

1. His Wife

2. His Work


3. His Finances


4. His Sexuality


5. His Affections


6. His Temptations


7. His Mind


8. His Fears


9. His Purpose


10. His Choices


11. His Health


12. His Protection


13. His Trials


14. His Integrity


15. His Reputation


16. His Priorities


17. His Relationships


18. His Fatherhood


19. His Past


20. His Attitude


21. His Marriage


22. His Emotions


23. His Walk


24. His Talk


25. His Repentance


26. His Deliverance


27. His Obedience


28. His Self-Image


29. His Faith


30. His Future

Blessings and peace,

Lisa

Completing Him Challenge~June 21st~Remembering my vows

I am taking the Summer Marriage Challenge at Women Living Well. This week's activity is to share memories of your wedding day. I don't have many photos because most of them are packed up for the move. I did scan these two from the wedding album.

We were married on July 8, 1995 at our former parish, SS Casimir and Emerich Church. We attended mass there together every Sunday while we were dating and engaged. We then went on to have our children baptised there as well. Our wedding day was unusually cool and overcast, which was very unusual that summer. Thankfully it didn't rain! I remember being very excited about marrying John. I had lost it at rehearsal the night before when practicing the vows, but was all smiles at the actual ceremony. Everything during the ceremony, from the singing to the readings and vows went perfectly. After the ceremony we went to an estate to have our outdoor photos taken, like the one above.

Our Wedding Party


Following the photos, we had a huge "hunky" reception with about 300 guests....give or take. The food was great, the music was fabulous and everyone had a great time. It went by in a blur for us because we were so busy that we had very little time to just party. I wish that would have been different. It was so wonderful to have so many family and friends share in our special day. My pen pal from third grade even flew in from Minnesota to be part of our wedding party. How wonderful is that?!

Fifteen years later, we still consider our vows sacred. Despite many challenges, our love continues to grow each passing day. I couldn't imagine life without my husband.



Blessings,
Lisa